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How To Choose The ‘RIGHT’ Station!

Choosing Your Thoughts

Choosing Your Thoughts

 

Your Thoughts Can Lift You Or Drain You.

Think of your thoughts as channels.
Now please take a moment to notice the power they have over you. How you feel at any given moment is directly linked to what you are thinking.

Let me illustrate using an everyday example.

I see a group of mothers huddled in a circle talking, whispering, exchanging glances…
My heart sinks. How could something so innocent create such distress?

It All Depends On What You Make it Mean. 

This group of mothers was gathering at my daughters’ school.
My mind without the slightest warning jumped to the ‘wrong station’.

I heard my distraught internal voice say:

“They did not invite her. She will be heart broken”.
“My daughter is being left out.  Excluded!!!!”
“Why is this happening?”

This stream of thoughts quickly graduated to:

“I’ve failed her somehow. It’s my fault she is not being included”.
“I’m a terrible mother.”

The station that was being played in my mind (my thinking) was causing me to feel extremely uncomfortable, confused, and insecure.

Fortunately with enough practice, I’ve learned not to believe all the thoughts that my mind fabricates.

Did you know that we have anywhere between 60 and 90 thousand thoughts swimming in our head on a daily basis? That is difficult to grasp.

What I want you to know is that most of these thoughts are not true. It’s our imagination, fears, and insecurities having an old fashioned make believe party.

Next time you see yourself spinning or listening to the ‘wrong station’.

Stop yourself.
Pause.
Take a couple of deep breaths.
Then ask yourself, What do I WANT to make this mean?

Notice you can spin the story anyway you’d like. So choose the story line that nourishes you and not the one that drains you.

Think of it as choosing the station that lifts you up.

Just in case you are wondering, what was happening in the huddle?  They were discussing gift ideas for a teacher who gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.

My daughter and I had nothing to do with the huddle. Funny how that works!

 

 

If your dreams don’t scare you, they aren’t big enough.

I believe fear shines a light on what matters most to us.  It’s also a key ingredient to making dreams come true.

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Think about it for a moment.

You know it’s a dream you really care about when:

You fear it may not come true.
You tell yourself, I can’t pull it off.
You sit down to work on it and the resistance pokes its ugly head out.
You tell yourself it’s too big for me.  Who I’m I to want ..xyz…? So you walk away.

What I’m trying to say is, if you stay exactly where you are, you won’t feel the fear smiling back at you.  This may be a sign you’re not reaching for what really matters most to you.

“If you aren’t taking the risks, you aren’t living fully.”

What are the dreams you truly care about?  The ones that make your heart race and your chest pound.  The ones that scare you.

Take time to really notice which ones surface.

Now that you know what they are, pause…. feel the fear ..…and move past it.

Make THESE dreams a reality!

If you have any questions on how to move past the fear comment or shoot me an email.  I’d be happy to help.  In the meantime read this classic little book, Feel The Fear and Do It ANYWAY, by Susan Jeffers .

Your choice, copy or original …

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“You were born an original. Don’t die a copy.”
John Mason

Which doors do you open and close each day?

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“The doors we open and close decide the lives we live.”
Flora Whittemore

How do YOU choose to react ?

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Life is 10% of what happens to you.