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How to win the toughest battle of our adult lives?

Gibran Daily Life

The DAY IN DAY OUT…. can be hell on earth.

I want to be completely transparent in sharing this video with you.  It reminded me of a time in my life where I felt a cold, meaningless, and senseless existence.

It was depressing to say the least.  I don’t want to be reminded of that drab, cynical, and uninspired person I had become.

I was what some would define, a workaholic.  My intentions were noble. I wanted to achieve great things, succeed at my career, and work hard to reach my goals.  I was after all an MBA destined to do great things.

When I landed in the hustle and bustle, The Day In & Day Out, felt like a cruel joke.  “There must be more to life than this”, was a frequent thought.

I fell into my default setting, which was to notice all that was wrong with my life.

David Foster Wallace, in this brilliant video, paints a picture that is many peoples ‘perceived’ reality.  The word perceived is where your power exists.  This is where you can make a choice to see the world differently and therefore experience a different reality.

Unfortunately, I see it everyday.  So many wonderful people that only notice what is wrong.

I’m happy to say that after much trial and error, I’ve discovered how to look forward to each and everyday.  I don’t live for the weekend.  Everyday feels like a favorite day.  

The Day In Day Out cloud, just isn’t a part of how I experience life anymore.

My absolute number one recommendation is to begin noticing what is right in your life and be grateful for that.  I have a post, The Gifts of Gratitude, where you’ll find several suggestions for how to make gratitude a habit.  This seemingly insignificant approach, will make a huge difference. I promise you!

 

A little something to think about..

J. F. Kenndy

A little something to think about..

Rumi

The first place to begin is from within.

On change

Snapped this just outside of my home. The leaves made me think of change.

How many of you like change? Be honest, raise your hands…

Why does change often scare the pants off most people? The word itself sounds innocuous, harmless, exciting at times, yet change can cause havoc in so many peoples lives. Why does that happen? Why do we fight it? What about change feels so threatening to many of us?

For one, it takes time to assess the “new” situation whether its losing your job, leaving your partner, moving to a new city, or anything else that has caused a shift in how things use to be. Our mind creates so many stories in the meantime.  The WHAT IF comments can make us feel as if the world as we know it is falling apart.  This is bad, our mind screams. We panic, we are frightened, and we feel shaken or lost.  Sometimes, shame may shackle us and cause us to feel as if we are the problem and the reason for the unwelcome transition.  NOT SO MY FRIENDS.

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